Today’s ‘Coffee with…’ is different from the previous shoots in the series. This is more of a tribute to a dear friend that passed away a while back. I am unsure of how this write-up will be received, but I felt I had to do it.


I guess the reason why I am doing this would be a good place to start. If Anneta was still alive, she would have been one of the first people to be featured in the series, so I feel it is only right that I include her. She was always in front of my first point-and-shoot camera; my style was formed from the photos I took of her and other friends when we were out. Losing her has made me appreciate the relationships I have with my friends and, in many ways, this is the reason I started the series.


Anneta was an amazing friend whom I met at university through my friend Michael. She would be on her way to being a lawyer, if she was still here with us. We became friends pretty much instantly and over time, she became like a sister to me – another friend that became family.


If I could speak to her now…


I imagine our conversations would begin with us making fun of each other, going back and forth and then laughing it off. I can imagine you would have been one of the selfie queens on Instagram and I would mock you daily for doing so, and making me get involved in your selfie-shenanigans – you were one of the few people that could get me to take a picture of myself.We would reminisce about our university days and theme park trips and all the silly poses we used to pull on the rides.


But you are not around and this saddens me deeply. I miss you every day. It’s easier not to think about it, which is why I stay busy so I don’t have to dwell on it. There have been times where I have wanted to pick up the phone and say ‘hi’, but looking at your number and knowing no one will answer is one of the hardest things to deal with. I couldn’t comprehend why God would take someone who brought joy into so many lives, but I am forever grateful that you were here and were part of my life. I am trying my hardest not to dwell on you not being here, and to remember the times and laughs we shared instead.


Losing you was the main inspiration for this series. Towards the end we didn’t speak as much because we were both busy with other commitments: I was in my final year of university and you were working full time – we rarely had time for each other. When you passed I said I would always make time for my loved ones and as much as I try, life still has a tendency to keep me occupied. The ‘Coffee with…’ series was my way of making time – I’m working on making sure that I do make time and don’t let life keep me preoccupied.


I really don’t know how to conclude this but I do know that I do not want to end this mourning you, because I’m not. Though you are no longer with us, you will forever have a place in my heart. I’m glad that I had you in my life and I will be forever grateful for all the joy that you brought. You weren’t perfect but you were an angel – someone I could rely on. I miss you and I love you.


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